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How to Be an Ethical Sugar Daddy
When you want to do expensive things with your partner, but you’re the only one in the relationship who can afford them
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Dear Joint Accounts,
I’m a mid-30s gay man and I’ve finally arrived in my career to the point where I’m making decent money. I like taking lots of trips, eating good food, and drinking nice cocktails. I also want to share that with a boyfriend or lover. But often, when I’m dating younger guys, they’re less far along in their career and don’t make as much money. I’ve dabbled in the sugar-daddy dynamic a bit, paying for everything we did together, and honestly, I kind of liked it. Sometimes, I want to do fancy things with a guy and I don’t want his financial situation to stop us. But with the #MeToo movement and my awareness of how power and money influence a relationship, how do I be an ethical sugar daddy? And how do I create the right boundaries so I also don’t get taken advantage of? How do I have these conversations with a partner?
—Ethical Sugar Daddy
