A way to defuse conflict when you’re mad
😎 Today’s tip: It’s easier to let something slide if you reply in writing.
We’re all a little on edge lately, and it’s totally understandable if being in neverending crisis mode is starting to make you feel a bit, well, snippy.
Drew Magary’s advice for keeping your cool: “Writing requires more effort than yelling.” When your coworker blows a deadline? When your friend flakes on a socially-distant hangout you’d been looking forward to? Try responding in text or email instead of a call or IRL — the extra time it takes to type something out will help you get to a place of chill.
And often, it’s in your best interest to get there. As Magary writes, “Those moments where someone expects you to be angry or punishing, and you instead let it slide? They’re gorgeous.”
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