Why You Assume You’re Annoying Everyone

Why You Assume You’re Annoying Everyone
How to worry less about what people think of you
Kathleen Smith
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Dec 1, 2021
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Source: CanvaHumans spend a great deal of energy trying not to annoy each other. Maybe you don’t ask the boss an important question when she’s grumpy. Or you wait to text a date back so you don’t seem desperate.
And yes, we’ve all deleted those extra exclamation marks from an email lest we terrify…
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Written by Kathleen Smith
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Kathleen Smith is a therapist and author of the book Everything Isn’t Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down.
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