The Surest Path to Happiness Is Making Others Happy
Science is now confirming empirically what spiritual teachers have long espoused: do good and you will feel good
My driver navigated the switchbacks with practiced ease. Before long, we reached our destination, an old building perched atop a hillside, and I found myself sipping butter tea and discussing the nature of happiness with a man named Karma. I was in Bhutan, a Himalayan nation sandwiched between India and China, investigating global bliss.
Karma Ura was genuinely perplexed by the West’s (and especially America’s) fixation on personal happiness. “I don’t understand this ‘personal happiness,’” he said, genuinely perplexed. “Happiness isn’t personal. It is 100-percent relational.”
At the time, I thought Karma was exaggerating to make his point. Surely our happiness can’t be 100-percent relational. What about the pleasures of a solitary walk in the woods or cocooning with a good book?
Only years later did I come to realize that Karma meant exactly what he said: our happiness is wholly dependent on the vitality of our relationships. This includes all relationships, include asymmetrical ones where we appear to give more than we get. The key word is “appear.” Help thy brother’s boat across, and lo! Thine…
