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When Trying to Be Helpful Is a Mental Trap

A therapist explains how solving other people’s problems can become an unhealthy form of stress relief

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Pretty much everyone’s heard that famous Mr. Rogers quote: “Look for the helpers.” But when you’re a therapist, you quickly learn that the helpers are not always what they appear to be.




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Kathleen Smith

Kathleen Smith

Kathleen Smith is a therapist and author of the book Everything Isn’t Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down.

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