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When It Comes to Friendships, It’s OK to Be the Planner

Appreciating this makes it possible to enjoy friendships more

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In any given relationship or group, there is always one person who makes things happen. Everyone says “hey, we should get together!” but this person finds a date and makes the restaurant reservation. After a family meet-up in a park, everyone says “we should do this…




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Laura Vanderkam

Laura Vanderkam

Laura Vanderkam is the author of several time management books including Off the Clock and 168 Hours. She blogs at

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