When It Comes to Friendships, It’s OK to Be the Planner

When It Comes to Friendships, It’s OK to Be the Planner
Appreciating this makes it possible to enjoy friendships more
Laura Vanderkam
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Apr 4, 2022
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Photo by Roberto Nickson on UnsplashIn any given relationship or group, there is always one person who makes things happen. Everyone says “hey, we should get together!” but this person finds a date and makes the restaurant reservation. After a family meet-up in a park, everyone says “we should do this…
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Written by Laura Vanderkam
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Laura Vanderkam is the author of several time management books including Off the Clock and 168 Hours. She blogs at LauraVanderkam.com.
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