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To Be a Better Ally, Stop People-Pleasing

Being anti-racist means learning to manage your automatic stress response

A stressed White woman biting her nails while looking at her cell phone.
Photo: Jose Luis Pelaez Inc/DigitalVision/Getty Images

Most people have heard of fight or flight, but there’s a third, lesser-known way people respond to feeling threatened — and in the aftermath of George Floyd’s murder, it was visible all over the social media accounts of White people.




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Ashley Abramson

Ashley Abramson

Writer-mom hybrid. Health & psychology stories in NYT, WaPo, Allure, Real Simple, & more.

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