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The Question That Will Save Your Relationship

A simple way to choose your battles

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II write about relationships, and over the years, have interviewed so many experts that I’ve lost count. Now that the Covid-19 pandemic has forced my family together 24/7 — and tensions frequently erupt around housework, homework, and personal space — I’ve found one piece of advice to be particularly life-changing.




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Jancee Dunn

Jancee Dunn

Author of How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids. Frequent contributor to NYT Parenting, Vogue, and Travel & Leisure. Website: IG: @janceedunn

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