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The Problem With Labeling One Person as the Problem

A therapist explains how to think differently about your relationship challenges.

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Humans are cause-and-effect thinkers. We like to point at one person, or a group of people, and say, “Here is the problem.”

But our relationship systems are much more complex than that. We all are constantly reacting…




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Kathleen Smith

Kathleen Smith

Kathleen Smith is a therapist and author of the book Everything Isn’t Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down.

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