The ‘First Days of the Pandemic’ Friendship Test
A simple thought exercise that reveals who matters most in your life
My wife once told me that when she was in her twenties, moving away from her hometown in Spain helped her to get clear on who truly belonged in her life. She only had so much brain space to spare as she adjusted to a new city, so she only made an effort to stay in contact with a select group of people. She also realized that only certain people from her past made an effort to stay in touch with her.
It’s like what Nike co-founder Phil Knight wrote in his book Shoe Dog: “The fastest way to know if you love someone is to say goodbye.” As we begin to slowly emerge out of the pandemic, I’ve been thinking a lot about that, and about her story.
Last week, our town borders were lifted and my family and I were given free rein to venture out into the world — or at least, into our Spanish province of Catalunya. It’s strange, but I haven’t yet raced out the door. If this were six months ago, I’d have been on the coast by now. Or at least, in my neighboring town eating ribs. It hasn’t always comfortable over the last 12 months with two young kids, but my home has gotten cozy. I feel kind of bad that I’m not making more of an effort to see my closest friends, but I understand why. It’s because I know they’re…
