The Complain Brag Is Even Worse Than the Humblebrag

It’s annoying, but women in particular may have a hard time breaking the habit

Lauren Larson
Forge

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A woman is standing at a party and smiles while struggling and everybody else claps for her.
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IfIf you work hard and you’re lucky, there will come a day in your career when blessings are heaped upon you. (If you’re my professional nemesis, that day will be every day — you literally will not go one day without being inexplicably rewarded! Anyway.)

On that day, you may wonder how to share these blessings with your colleagues. You have several options:

You can just brag-brag, confidently describing your good tidings with your colleagues like a sociopath: “I got a promotion!”

You can humble-brag, couching your brag in self-deprecation: “I got a promotion, but I’m an unqualified wretch, omg.”

Or you can complain-brag: “I got a promotion, but I have to do ten times as much work, the raise is pitiful, the industry is crumbling from within, a recession is coming, my ex doesn’t want to get back together, and I’ve had a weird pulse in my eyelid for three days. Death comes for us all.”

Since the late comedian-writer Harris Wittels coined the term “humblebrag” in 2010, we’ve gotten very good at calling each other out for false modesty. But complain-bragging is actually more common. People also hate it more…

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