The Boundary You Didn’t Know You Were Missing
Setting personal limits complementary to your needs and desires can strengthen your self-trust and identity
I can remember the agony of checking email, as if my inbox — a completely innocuous tech tool — had become my worst enemy. Each refresh was like a Russian roulette of impending crisis or criticism. If you’ve experienced a stressful period at work or gone through a difficult time in your career, then you may be able to relate to this pit-in-your-stomach feeling. Every new request gets mounted on your ever-growing to-do list. You worry you’re incapable of rising to meet expectations (whether they’re your own or someone else’s). And pretty soon, you’re losing sleep and sacrificing personal time to keep up with it all.
At the time, I was really struggling through imposter syndrome, the sinking feeling that you’re a fake or a fraud. My brand of imposter syndrome came with a heap of self-doubt and overextension of myself to compensate for my insecurities. Soon, my eroding self-trust translated to other areas of my life, including dating and friendships, until I found myself burned out and feeling like the shell of a person.
In my case, no amount of productivity or time management hacks helped. Unhelpful thoughts and emotions took up most of my…
