18 Really Good Questions to Ask Yourself When You’re Feeling Stuck
Keep them handy and refer to them often
As a writer and coach, I think a lot of people like my work because I ask really good questions. I once heard the concept of “asking high-quality questions to determine high-quality answers” and I dismissed it as self-help fluff, but I’ve found through my work with myself and others that honestly, it’s true.
So whenever I am facing sticky situations, or fearful ones, or when I find myself caught in a shame loop that threatens to take over, I return to this list of questions to remind myself, over and over again, that if I ask the right questions, I’ll find the right answers.
I offer these up to you today. Print them out, put them on a Post-it by your desk or bed, or stick it in your Notes app. Because sometimes, to get a different perspective on a situation that feels hopeless, a simple reframe from the right question can get you moving again.
- Am I attempting to mind-read somebody else’s intentions in this situation?
- How could I give myself what I’m hoping this other person will give me?
- Is this thought arising from shame or fear? What is a thought I can have from self-compassion or hope instead?
- Can I name three…
