💬 Tip: When a friend is upset, try asking: “Do you want to talk about it or be distracted from it?”
💡 Tip: Instead of saying “Here’s what helped me,” try asking “What’s helped you before?”
When friends and colleagues come to us with problems, we often—with the best intentions!—make it about ourselves. “Oh yes, that happened to me once. So what I did was …”
The anniversary of 9/11 is punctuating a difficult week. Fires are raging. The presidential election is getting uglier. Parents are sacrificing income for at-home learning. The scourge of police violence continues.
For those with underlying stresses, from health issues to financial hardship, the state of the world may feel unbearable.
When a friend is going through a hard time, you likely won’t be able to make the situation better.
Several years ago, I confessed to my therapist at the time that I was nervous about an upcoming flight. It was my first time traveling solo, and I couldn’t stop worrying about being left to fend for myself if something terrible happened.
Let’s face it: Things weren’t exactly feeling cheerful for most of us before the coronavirus hit, what with a fraught election, the climate crisis, and — well, you can choose whichever social issue currently troubles you most. There’s no shortage.
When I didn’t get a job I thought I was a shoo-in for, I didn’t call a friend to vent my frustration. I didn’t ask for a pep talk. In fact, I told exactly no one what had happened, instead falling into a private tailspin of doubt: I really thought…
A publication from Medium on personal development.