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It’s being really bad at handling rejection

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Like a lot of men, I have a long track record of sucking at rejection. Whenever someone said no to me, it was always THEIR fault that they didn’t see the best in me. I was great. They were foolish.

Sometimes the answer is no

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We all have to say no sometimes. But whether you are rejecting someone personally or on behalf of an organization you represent, it is essential to do so with good grace and human decency.

Successful people know that setbacks are opportunities in disguise — and that big wins don’t always change your life

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As a musical artist and, later, the owner of my own music agency, I’ve been rejected untold times and waited on countless follow-up calls that never came. Because of this, I’ve learned to accept disappointment as a viable option before it even happens. I try to remind myself that new opportunities are always around the corner. And it’s the most potent lesson I’ve ever learned.

Try to collect as many of them as possible. Really.

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When I didn’t get a job I thought I was a shoo-in for, I didn’t call a friend to vent my frustration. I didn’t ask for a pep talk. In fact, I told exactly no one what had happened, instead falling into a private tailspin of doubt: I really thought I’d be chosen? How mortifying. Keeping my rejection a secret seemed like the best way to protect myself from further humiliation.

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