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Three ways to avoid a classic personal growth trap

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I’m a PhD candidate in counseling psychology, studying how context influences mental health outcomes and how this makes us vulnerable to phenomena like impostor syndrome. I’m also a clinician who counsels high-achieving and goal-oriented people working toward mental wellness and self-compassion. What seems clear when I talk to people about their goals is that the goals become the point.

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