The wildest thing happened this past weekend.
Wait for it…
As in, I attended some. Plural.
It was my first real weekend of Hot Vax Summer, and my first proper going-out in 18 months. And somewhere amid all that rusty social interaction, I realized something. Well, two things. One: I know a lot of Geminis. Second, and the reason we’re all here: that the only kind of ‘networking’ I ever want to do is going to parties where I can be my damn self and enjoy the people around me. I know, what a concept.
I cannot tell you…
👋 Tip: When introducing someone, say their name first and their relationship to you second.
Here’s a simple, but meaningful etiquette tip, courtesy of Joanna Goddard of Cup of Jo: Say the person’s name first and their relationship to you second.
Nope: This is my neighbor, Kenny.
YES: This is Kenny, my neighbor.
As Goddard writes, it’s a way to spotlight the person and not their connection to you. The small tweak makes a big difference.
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