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What does it mean to plan out our lives in unplannable circumstances?

The last time someone asked me about my five-year plan, I was in an office with too few windows, interviewing for a job that listed one set of responsibilities in the description and a different set in the interviews. I tried not to let it faze me, because the role came with health insurance.

By that point, I’d googled enough examples, filled out enough college applications, and written enough cover letters to be able to succinctly answer t when asked. …

Dave Ramsey and I are ideological opposites. Listening to his show made me realize that doesn’t matter as much as I thought.

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If you don’t know who Dave Ramsey is, then there’s a high likelihood that you’re probably someone like me: a liberal millennial who, under most circumstances, is not remotely interested in hearing what conservative baby boomers think about how you should live your life.

If you do know who he is, then it’s likely you are one of the millions of Americans who is in serious debt. The Ramsey Show is the third largest nationally syndicated radio show in the U.S., with 20 million combined weekly listeners. His “seven baby steps” formula and 19 national bestselling books have helped millions…

Younger adults have this whole ‘talking about feelings thing’ down

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It’s been a rough few weeks for mental health. As if the constant threat of disease wasn’t enough of a mindfuck, our new social-distancing lifestyle is causing what TIME magazine recently called “an emotional pandemic” of anxiety and fear.

But just as younger adults seem to sometimes fare better against Covid-19, they may also be better equipped, mentally and emotionally, to weather this pandemic. From the Great Recession to our toxic political landscape, people who came of age during our most recent national crises have developed our own way of thinking about mental health — one that people of any…

When you’re in middle age, you have no choice but to learn from the kids

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I got laid off a couple years ago, at 41. When you get laid off and you’re 40 or older, included in your severance packet is a document that lists the ages of all your co-workers. It’s required under the — and typing this makes me slightly despondent — Older Workers Benefit Protection Act of 1990, meant to defend the benefits of workers from age discrimination. Perusing this list feels wrong, like you’re invading your former colleagues’ privacy. Yet you can’t look away. Seeing your age and their ages, like that, in a list, in black and white, jolts you…

The New New

We pick up and move from city to city, trying on new identities but rarely sticking with them. It’s going to cost us.

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The first time I moved, the first time I dove into the intoxicating lure of “new beginnings,” I brought few personal items with me to make my cinder-block-walled dorm room feel like home. No posters. No knickknacks to sit on our one window sill. No fairy lights. It looked like somewhere that could be wiped clean in minutes, whenever the next new beginning called, and no one would know I had been there.

I didn’t realize at the time how that would become a pattern in my life. I spent a good part of my twenties only half-unpacked wherever I…


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