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‘What you can plan is too small for you to live’

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I’ve always been a planner. It feels good to make a goal, work toward it, then check it off your list, even if your goal…


There’s a reason we’re drawn to the wild, especially when it feels far away

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The bobcat stared back at me with wide, yellow eyes, like a startled housecat. I took a step closer, but a voice snapped me out of it. “What are you doing?!” my husband whispered from behind. “We gotta get out of here!”

It’s not uncommon to see wildlife where I live…


20 statements to help you see things differently

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A growth mindset is about adopting an outlook that says “I can…


The rejuvenating power of feeling like a visitor

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Now, with vaccines and tulips all around us, she was still dragging herself from masked grocery store visits to the occasional school pickup (when school wasn’t closed because of Covid.) “What can rejuvenate me?” she asked. We listed the obvious options for middle-aged women in Brooklyn: yoga, wine, essential oils, hanging out in someone’s backyard for…


A mental framework for making it through a difficult time

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The other night, I went shopping with a purpose: I was looking specifically for books about writing. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the power of “writing through” the time we’re in, and I’ve been writing a lot more. I grabbed Bird by…


A psychology-based approach to conflict

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About five years ago my significant other and I were in a dumb argument. I wasn’t backing down. She wasn’t backing down.

During the stalemate, I vented to a friend. I explained to him in agonizing detail why I was right, why my significant other was wrong, how the world would be better off if I could just get her to understand this — and did this guy have any advice for convincing her that I was right? His response: “Do you want to be right or happy?”

This question has since saved me a lot of headaches and led…


☀️ Today’s tip: Go outside.

We’ve spent some time on Forge singing the praises of spending time out in the cold. Great news for anyone who’s still skeptical: Soon, you won’t even have to worry about getting chilly — which means it will be easier than ever to reap the restorative benefits of being outside.

For a mental-health day (or quick midday break) that truly recharges you, spend it out of the house. As Ashley Laderer explains in Elemental: Studies have shown a link between proximity to ‘green space’ and a reduction in depression and anxiety symptoms,” and getting out…


How to give yourself space to work through your grief

Blurred image of people walking at a crosswalk in a city.
Blurred image of people walking at a crosswalk in a city.
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Some therapists have described the Covid-19 pandemic as an experience of collective trauma. Others have carefully delineated the difference between a collective stressor, and collective trauma — though they note that certainly some have experienced traumatic stress (loss of loved ones, loss of employment, or the trauma experienced by health care workers…


Like a muscle, your ability to feel pleasure can deteriorate if you don’t use it

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There’s a time for sadness and anger, and these days, it seems to be 24/7. Summoning joy, on the other hand, hasn’t felt so easy for a while…


It’s easier than you think, and it’s never been more important

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In a stroke of luck, I managed to snag the last scraper in the store, a fact the register attendant commented on as I brought my prize over to checkout. I don’t…

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