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An idle mind is not a lazy mind

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I’m not generally good at doing nothing. I’m a time-management and productivity expert, and I also have five children; I’m almost never idle. But I was recently reminded how sometimes you have to create a little idleness in order to let a new idea in. On a beach trip, I was technically “doing something” as I waded in the waves, but navigating the breakers required very little attention. So my mind wandered — right to a solution for a problem I’d been ruminating on for weeks. There it was in my mind, clearly worded and ready to be typed up.

The question that changed my way of being

Close up of a man smiling with his eyes closed.
Close up of a man smiling with his eyes closed.
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It’s funny how the smallest, silliest thoughts can have a catalytic effect on a person. I had one of those thoughts recently, and it 180’d me into a new way of being.

Our natural biases make us focus on scary news, but that doesn’t mean you have to live in fear

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We all do it about a hundred times a day: Open our preferred news app; read a terrifying headline about scary new health research; experience that now-familiar anxiety level spike. Consume too much media and it can feel like the world is ending every day. Trust me, I get it.

Your brain wants to protect you from your own decisions, but you can decide to override it

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Deciding to become a full-time freelance writer was itself a full-time job for me. I spent hours every day — for months — making lists of the pros and cons of being self-employed. But the more I deliberated over it, the more anxious I got, and then I would start the process all over again.

The best lessons from films and fiction on what makes a hero

Robin Williams and Matt Damon in ‘Good Will Hunting.’ Photo: Miramax Films

Every now and then, we come across someone who’s simply awe-inspiring. They’re magnetic, glowing, irresistible. What makes them this way? Why do we look up every story they’ve written, watch every video they’ve appeared in, and listen to their entire backlog of podcast interviews?

It’s easy to ask someone else for permission. A therapist explains how to grant it to yourself.

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Lately, many of my therapy clients have asked some version of the same question: “It’s okay to not have it all together, right?”

It’s basic math, really

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Life is a constant series of trade-offs: Everything you do is something you choose at the expense of something else.

As Forge turns one, we look back at the stories that helped us make sense of the last 12 months — and provide a blueprint for your future

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One year ago, we introduced our new publication, and characterized its world like this:

“Self help” has come a long way, and in its current iteration we talk more about progress, bravery, and mindfulness; doing more, and being more creative. The field has become less gendered, more universal and global, and a whole lot more interesting than it once was.

Here at Forge, we’re all obsessed with the individual’s engagement with the world. What we didn’t know in June 2019 was how crucial that engagement would become. The pandemic, the ongoing fight against racial injustice, and the financial crisis are…

Feeling socially connected is a need all of us share, but human interaction isn’t the only way to get it

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There was a point, midway through quarantine, where I started to wonder if I was made for it.

Just the act of making a plan has huge benefits

Illustration: Andrea Chronopoulos

I’m supposed to be at a music festival in Germany right now, not at home writing this column. My friend and I made the plans months ago. For obvious reasons, that festival isn’t happening.


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