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The question that changed my way of being

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It’s funny how the smallest, silliest thoughts can have a catalytic effect on a person. I had one of those thoughts recently, and it 180’d me into a new way of being.

I’d been thinking about how I spend far too much time dwelling in dark feelings, or what I…

Our natural biases make us focus on scary news, but that doesn’t mean you have to live in fear

We all do it about a hundred times a day: Open our preferred news app; read a terrifying headline about scary new health research; experience that now-familiar anxiety level spike. Consume too much media and it can feel like the world is ending every day. Trust me, I get it.

The best lessons from films and fiction on what makes a hero

Every now and then, we come across someone who’s simply awe-inspiring. They’re magnetic, glowing, irresistible. What makes them this way? Why do we look up every story they’ve written, watch every video they’ve appeared in, and listen to their entire backlog of podcast interviews?

I wonder about this every day…

It’s easy to ask someone else for permission. A therapist explains how to grant it to yourself.

Lately, many of my therapy clients have asked some version of the same question: “It’s okay to not have it all together, right?”

It’s a question I’m seeing plenty of in my personal life, too. I’m on a group text with friends where we regularly send photos of towering laundry…

As Forge turns one, we look back at the stories that helped us make sense of the last 12 months — and provide a blueprint for your future

One year ago, we introduced our new publication, and characterized its world like this:

“Self help” has come a long way, and in its current iteration we talk more about progress, bravery, and mindfulness; doing more, and being more creative. …

Feeling socially connected is a need all of us share, but human interaction isn’t the only way to get it

There was a point, midway through quarantine, where I started to wonder if I was made for it.

I’m used to alone time in abundance — I spent seven years living on my own. And I know firsthand that loneliness and being alone are two different things, and that the…


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