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On snakes, resistance, and finding joy on the other side

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Last fall, I was the writer-in-residence at the Dobie Paisano ranch in Texas Hill Country. And one major features of the Dobie Paisano ranch is its snake-filled-ness. Chock full o snakes. In one of the old accounts of the ranchland contributed by one of its former residents, who grew up there, there were so many rattlesnakes around the place that when you opened the screen door, they lit out into the field “like lighting.”


Small actions can have an outsize impact

An adult woman on the phone looking at her laptop on the dining table while her son uses a digital tablet.
An adult woman on the phone looking at her laptop on the dining table while her son uses a digital tablet.
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Let’s face it: Things weren’t exactly feeling cheerful for most of us before the coronavirus hit, what with a fraught election, the climate crisis, and — well, you can choose whichever social issue currently troubles you most. There’s no shortage.

Add a global pandemic, and it’s easy to feel like we’re living in a leadership vacuum right now. Trust of elected officials is near an all-time low. Our faith in business, media, and NGOs isn’t exactly soaring, either.

But too often, people take an overly narrow view of what leadership really is. At the risk of sounding like one of…


Asking for help can deepen a relationship if you do it right

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The first time I had to install an air conditioner in my apartment, I spent the early weeks of summer stewing in sweaty anxiety. I hated the stress of hoisting an unwieldy hunk of metal into my third-floor window, directly above a well-trafficked sidewalk. But I also hated the idea of asking any of my friends for help. Surely they all had better things to do on an evening or weekend than schlep to my place to perform manual labor.

And what if they said no? I already felt needy for being unable to handle the job myself. …

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