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A line from a novel helped settle my unease about once-close connections that have gone cold

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Once upon a time, we were deeply ingrained in each other’s lives. We met up for dinners or movies or just to ride the rhythm of our good time, toasting to our own riff on “nature’s masterpiece,” as Emerson described friendship. We walked and wrote and called and felt like we were getting closer and closer. We went on road trips, chose conversation over sleep, got each other out of jams. We told each other “I love you,” and we meant it. We absorbed each other’s sadnesses and made them more bearable. We were there at pivotal moments. We coded…


An easy plan for strengthening any friendship

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Loneliness was on the rise even before Covid-19. Now, with social events canceled and many people working from home, the situation is more dire — and might seem intractable. After all, how can you safely meet new people during a pandemic?

Like many people, I’ve been looking for more connection these days. After many months of no work travel and canceled social events, it’s easy to feel isolated. My first thought was that I needed to challenge myself to meet new people — difficult in the middle of a pandemic. But it turns out you don’t have to meet anyone…


There’s a more empowering way to opt out

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Bailing on plans used to be weirdly fun, like playing hooky with one’s social life. It could even feel like a rebellion against the relentless pace of modern life. But suddenly, there are no more opportunities for the thrill of bailing. If 2019 was pronounced “a veritable age of cancellation,” the period truly deserving of that title is upon us now: Covid-19 has abruptly canceled all our plans for us.

This clearing of our calendars has primed Americans for alternative ways of connecting. Without any social plans to bail on, we’re in an unprecedented era of people showing up. Recently…


Some tried-and-true strategies for getting your people to the polls

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Voter turnout has never been a strong suit in the United States. Just slightly over half of all eligible adults voted in the 2016 presidential election, which, according to the Pew Research Center, put the country toward the bottom of developed nations in a ranking of voter participation.

And when it comes to elections that don’t include a president, Americans seem even less interested. Some experts predict that next week will bring the highest midterm voter turnout in half a century — but their estimates still top out at around 45 to 50 percent. …

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