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If You Want to Help Others, You Must Learn to Say ‘No’

To be there for other people, we can’t abdicate our agency

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My work as an activist and advocate sits at the intersection of race, gender, and class, with a particular focus on family and community. But I can’t show up for others to do this work unless I take care of myself.

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Mia Birdsong

Mia Birdsong

Writer, activist. I wrote a book: How We Show Up (Hachette, June 2020)

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