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Joint Accounts

My Family Is Using Money to Control Me

How do I get out from under their thumb without causing any conflict?

Illustration: Laurie Rollitt

Welcome to Joint Accounts, a weekly advice column about money and relationships of all kinds. Have a question? Email

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Kristin Wong has written for the New York Times, The Cut, Catapult, The Atlantic and ELLE.

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