A Cure for Self-Doubt Is Setting Unrealistic Expectations

It’s not about deluding yourself, but rather finding a better starting point

Herbert Lui
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6 min readOct 18, 2021

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Image: Design for The Magic Flute; The Hall of Stars in the Palace of the Queen of the Night, Act 1, Scene 6 (1847–49) by Karl Friedrich Schinkel (German, 1781–1841)/Artvee

In the 1980s, educator Jaime Escalante taught calculus at one of the worst schools in East LA, with a dropout rate as high as 55%. Escalante and his calculus class turned the reputation of the school around, with a high percentage of his students passing the AP calculus exam.

When a film based on this story came out, Dolores Kohl Solovy and Patricia Brieschkeis wrote, “Our children will meet our expectations. What would happen if we really believed it? If the people who run schools believed it? If teachers everywhere believed it?”

While people’s expectations, and even past evidence, might work against us, we all need reminders to believe. Here, we’ll look at the label of unrealistic expectations for ourselves (not the ones we set on other people). If you’ve ever said something like, “That’ll never happen for me,” “Why do I even try?” or “I’m not smart enough to do that,” to yourself, this post is for you.

Dealing with distorted, unrealistic expectations

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Herbert Lui
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Written by Herbert Lui

Covering the psychology of creative work for content creators, professionals, hobbyists, and independents. Author of Creative Doing: https://www.holloway.com/cd