Hug Your Sons, Dads

Indrani Sen
Forge
Published in
3 min readOct 23, 2020

--

Photo: Lucas Uebel/Getty Images

I Miss Big, Wet, Embarrassing Kisses From My Father,” John DeVore wrote yesterday on his Medium site, Humungus.

It was a one-day-later reflection on a truly awful tweet—one that is (thankfully) already fading into the morass of toxicity that this election cycle has unleashed. John Cardillo, a right-wing pundit, captioned a photo of Joe Biden hugging his son with the question: “Does this look like an appropriate father/son interaction to you?”

“The message is both muddy and crystal clear,” DeVore writes:

Cardillo is plainly suggesting there is something… off… about these two men. He’s also mumbling another message under his breath: love is weakness.

I like to think of myself as a dirtbag sommelier so I also detected notes of homophobia in Cardillo’s obnoxious little one-liner. He’s singing a sad jingle to the macho faithful: any physical affection between men is… gay.

This is a bad thing, of course. To be gay. To love who you love.

This idea is brutally harmful, especially to those who espouse it. As the author and…

--

--

Forge
Forge

Published in Forge

A former publication from Medium on personal development. Currently inactive and not taking submissions.

Indrani Sen
Indrani Sen

Written by Indrani Sen

Editorial director at Medium, mom, gardener, cook. Formerly at Quartz.