How to Turn Down Someone’s Request to Be a Reference

A script for saying no with minimal awkwardness

Rebecca Fishbein
Forge
Published in
5 min readSep 23, 2019

--

Photo: 10'000 Hours/Getty Images

BBeing asked to serve as someone’s professional reference is a compliment (they care about what you think), but it can also be kind of a drag (one more phone call you need to schedule time for), even as it’s also a small joy (you get to help someone advance their career).

--

--

Rebecca Fishbein
Forge
Writer for

Rebecca Fishbein is a writer in Brooklyn & the author of GOOD THINGS HAPPEN TO PEOPLE YOU HATE, out 10/15. Find her on Twitter at @bfishbfish.