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How I Finally Learned How to Say ‘No’ (and How You Can, Too)

Nine phrases to try for yourself

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I have finally learned how to say “no.” I am 43. It’s taken 25 years of my adult life to get comfortable with these two tiny letters. Why? Three reasons, the combination of which is the perfect storm for someone like me: 1) I am a people pleaser; 2) it’s human nature to be really needy and demanding, even…




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Julio Vincent Gambuto

Julio Vincent Gambuto

Weekly Contributor // Writer/Director/NYC/Guncle/Author of “Prepare for the Ultimate Gaslighting”/Book debut from Avid Reader Press 2023 //

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