How To Parent in a World Without Answers

Amy Shearn
Forge
Published in
2 min readSep 24, 2020

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During the month before school started this September, my parent friends and I collaboratively composed one of the most Beckett-esque group chats of all time. One mom would text: “We can’t send our kids to school in the fall, can we?” And another would respond: “Right. We cannot. But also, we can’t NOT send them to school, can we?” And a third would confirm: “Right. But also — ”

School has started, and there is still no good answer. The catch-22 of pandemic parenting has by now been well documented. It’s simply impossible to work remotely and parent full time and run an ad hoc homeschool, all while processing daily doses of grief and trauma. And however many months in, we’re all, as Will Leitch writes on Medium, losing our goddamned minds.

Leitch writes about how sad and dumb and hopeless it feels to try to make good decisions for our children right now:

“I’m not sure what the right thing to do is. It doesn’t seem 100% safe to send children back to school. But it sure doesn’t seem 100% safe not to either. I don’t have the answers. Who does? It is difficult for…

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Amy Shearn
Forge

Formerly: Editor of Creators Hub, Human Parts // Ongoingly: Novelist, Essayist, Person