How to Give a Colleague Tough Feedback When You Like Them
You can support your colleague while still providing criticism
Jessica Powell, the former Google vice president who wrote The Big Disruption and told you how to quit your job, is here to answer your common but tricky work questions. Check back every other week for more management advice with a tech inflection.
At my company, we do peer reviews as part of our performance rating and promotion process. A co-worker has asked me to give him a review. Am I actually supposed to be 100% honest in a peer review, or do I tell him the bad stuff privately? What if he’s up for promotion? I don’t want to keep him from being promoted, but I definitely have some constructive feedback I think he should hear.
The answer to this would surely be “100% honesty” if the workplace were truly a meritocracy and if people actually wanted to hear your opinions about them. But companies are rarely a meritocracy, and people generally don’t like criticism. In that case, the best guiding principle is probably to be honest but careful.
You say that your peer has asked you to write a review, so it sounds like your workplace work lets employees pick some or all of their peer reviewers. Most likely, this reviewer thinks you two are on good terms and is expecting…
