How to Be a Calming Influence

And stop stressing out the people around you

Michael Thompson
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“I’m terrified of taking time off! I’m scared I’ll lose my traction!”

A writer friend needed a break. She’d been hitting it hard. In our Slack group, the typical messages came flooding in: “Take care of yourself!” people said. “We all need to take time off from time to time!”

Though well-meaning, the words didn’t really help my friend. That is, until the group’s voice of reason Niklas Göke chimed in. “Sometimes the best way to see if something is working is by stepping away,” he said, and in an instant, our friend’s shoulders dropped. In one well-crafted sentence, Nik gave our friend the permission she was looking for.

Years ago, like a lot of people, I liked the rah-rah of self-help “gurus” like Tony Robbins. Today, however, I much prefer people who choose their words carefully, whose messages serve as soup for our souls.

If you’re like me in this regard, below are a few ways to be a quiet yet calming influence and an inspiration for others.

Ask yourself this question

When Covid hit the United States, author Elizabeth Gilbert was in Australia. At first, she flipped out and sent a panicked message to her friends and family expressing her need to get…

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Michael Thompson
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Co-creator of two cool kids • Storytelling Coach •.Fast Co., Insider, Forbes • Free storytelling guide here: https://bit.ly/3h1KZeT