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Don’t Befriend Your Boss

Jennifer R. Bernstein
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5 min readJan 14, 2020

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Jennifer R. Bernstein
Jennifer R. Bernstein

Written by Jennifer R. Bernstein

writer/journalist. words in The New Republic, The Nation, LARB, Pacific Standard, Hazlitt, Gay Magazine, MEL, and elsewhere. https://www.jenniferrbernstein.com/

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Being friends with your boss is a terrible, terrible mistake. It’s the responsibility of the boss though not to use their subordinates as tools to improve their own social lives! If they try it … don’t succumb to the temptation. In the end no matter…

This article is very good professional advice that can be ignored at your own peril.
To be sure, your relationship with your boss does not exist in a hermetic container. You may have colleagues who shamelessly vie with each other all throughout the…

Friendship is a freely chosen affinity between equals, and anyone with control over your paycheck is not your equal.
If I might offer a slightly off take.. I can afford some casualness because end of the day I don’t work for my boss, I work for me. My job and my boss are replaceable.