Why Moms (and Non-Moms) Have Had Enough

Invisible labor at home and work make this time particularly trying for women

Kelli María Korducki
Forge

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A photo of a family of four (mom, dad, two kids) sitting at home. Mom is on her computer and attending to a child.
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The bombshell from a recent New York Times survey probably didn’t come as much of a surprise to working moms juggling Zoom calls and math worksheets: In straight American couples with kids under 12, nearly half of men claimed that they were shouldering most of their children’s homeschooling duties. Only 3% of women agreed.

As the coronavirus lockdown drags along, parents around the world are not alright, buckling under the demands of educating their children and doing their jobs, all in a climate of uncertainty and fear.

Meanwhile, some childless remote workers — stuck at home without a hard stop to the workday — are logging long hours, panic-working, and sometimes picking up the slack for overtaxed parents. There’s no data yet, but given what we know about the “invisible labor” that women perform at work, as well as at home, this group is also likely to skew female.

The times are trying. But, as many predicted early in the crisis, they’re largely more trying for women — single and married, with or without children — than men.

There are several reasons for this. First of all, the drudgery of domestic labor — overwhelmingly, disproportionately, and…

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