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Controlling Others Means You’ve Lost Control

Overfunctioning is a common reaction to distress. A therapist explains how to let go.

Photo: Maskot/Getty Images

Let’s try an exercise. Have you done any of these things in the past month?

  • Assumed someone needed help without asking.
  • Completed a task your child could do themselves.




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Kathleen Smith

Kathleen Smith

Kathleen Smith is a therapist and author of the book Everything Isn’t Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down.

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