Compassion Is More Than Niceness

The new science on human goodness

Michele DeMarco, PhD
Forge

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I ditched my cable subscription in May. If I had to hear one more antagonistic screaming head or screaming politician or screaming anything who pits one person or one side against another purposefully for ratings or dramatic effect, I was going to lose it — seriously. It was either the black metal box beneath the television or my sanity and soul — I chose the latter.

I also didn’t like what was happening to me. In watching 24-hour “Breaking News” or, for that matter, doomscrolling social media about the COVID pandemic, political polarization, misinformation, disinformation, race and culture wars, economic insecurity, and the general daily uncertainty that has been dominating our lives for eighteen months, I was sliding into indifference — about others, life, and the hope of society ever regaining some modicum of goodwill, decency, and kindness.

“If I look at the mass, I will never act. If I look at the one, I will.”

The words are Mother Teresa’s, arguably one of history’s greatest fonts of compassion. But in social science this phenomenon of mass indifference is called psychic numbing.

Psychic numbing is a lack of feeling associated with information. Paul Slovic, a psychologist at the University of Oregon who has for decades been…

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Michele DeMarco, PhD
Forge

Award-winning writer, therapist, clinical ethicist, and researcher specializing in moral injury. I talk about the stuff many won’t. micheledemarco.com