Are You ‘Building Up Self’ or ‘Borrowing Self’?

How to rely less on others to boost your mood and functioning

Kathleen Smith
Forge

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Humans are social creatures. Pay attention to any relationship, and you will see a small emotional economy of borrowing, lending, and trading. If you lend me some of your calmness when I’m distressed, then I’ll take over a task when it feels too overwhelming for you. If I give you…

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Kathleen Smith
Forge

Kathleen Smith is a therapist and author of the books Everything Isn’t Terrible and True to You. She writes about anxiety, relationships, and Bowen theory.