An Embarrassing Story Is a Secret Weapon at Work

The benefits of looking a little ridiculous in front of your colleagues

Kate Morgan
Forge

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LLast year, I flew to Montana with a nerve-wracking purpose: I was working on a big story, and as part of the reporting, I’d set up a meeting with several scientists who were big deals in their field. I wanted to appear confident, competent, like I was someone worthy of their time. So, as soon as our conversation began, I leaned forward and propped my chin up with my hand in the “active listening” pose I’d practiced.

Almost immediately, everyone else in the room started chuckling. Apparently, my fancy roller ball gel pen hadn’t withstood the pressure at 30,000 feet, and I’d just rubbed its exploded ink — which was all over my fingers — onto my face in an inky black goatee.

One round of rousing laughter and a trip to the bathroom later, I started the interview for real — and it turned into one of the best conversations I’ve had in recent memory. On the flight home, replaying the experience in my mind, I figured out why: My embarrassing moment broke the ice, making everyone laugh and, thus, making them more comfortable.

We all know shared embarrassment can bring us together. Think about any silly first day of camp or college orientation icebreaker you’ve ever sat…

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Kate Morgan
Forge
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Kate is a freelance journalist who’s been published by Popular Science, The New York Times, USA Today, and many more. Read more at bykatemorgan.com.