A Radical (But Doable) Plan for Breaking Your Phone Addiction

To make your phone work for you, not against you, think like an anthropologist and deconstruct all the jobs you’re asking it to do

Ximena Vengoechea
Forge
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7 min readFeb 11, 2021

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My hands hurt. They’re sore and stiff, and on bad days I can feel a dull ache from my wrist all the way up to the base of my skull. I know what the problem is: Even though I’ve tried to be on my phone less, it’s clearly still too much.

The pandemic has thrown us into a tizzy of endless news-reading, doomscrolling, and social media escapism, without the in-person social norms that used to help regulate our behavior, and the tumult of the election year didn’t help. I also added five months of maternity leave and a texting-while-nursing habit to the mix, which meant that the good phone hygiene I had once developed — the ritual of picking a new library book for my commute each week, limiting my work email and Slack habits to business hours, plunking my phone into an off-limits phone jar after work — quickly disappeared.

I’ve always had a complicated relationship to technology. I work in tech and I’m endlessly fascinated by it, yet I, like so many people, long for the days when conversations were not interrupted by a Google search and there was no pressure to turn intimate moments…

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Ximena Vengoechea
Forge
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Writer, UX Researcher, Author of The Life Audit ('24), Rest Easy ('23), Listen Like You Mean It ('21). ximenavengoechea.com/books