The Forge Guide to Networking
A Networking Hater’s Guide to Networking
What the Wing taught me about connecting IRL
I have two coffees with strangers on my Google calendar for October. That this is a major professional milestone is a testament to how diligently I have avoided networking. It’s not that I don’t like meeting people; I am an enthusiastic extrovert. But as soon as a transactional thread is introduced — the thought that someday, my “connection” with the person I’m talking to will “pay off” — I feel very unsure of myself.
At the same time, I’m aware that networking is important, and that it’s especially important for women. In February, Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences published a study showing that effective networking looks very different for men and women. For men, it was enough to be central to their professional networks: Men with a lot of industry acquaintances were way more likely to be placed in high-up leadership positions.
But for women, that wasn’t enough. “Women who have networks that resemble those of high-placing men are low-placing, despite having leadership qualifications comparable to high-placing women,” the study authors wrote. In addition to wide networks, the women who were placed in the most senior leadership positions also had an “inner circle”…
