Published inForgeIf You Want to Help Others, You Must Learn to Say ‘No’To be there for other people, we can’t abdicate our agencyJun 17, 20204747Jun 17, 20204747
Gather Your WomenMy dear friend, Courtney Martin, and I wrote this piece together.May 6, 20204May 6, 20204
Lessons From Bees“we must be very strong / and love each other / in order to go on living” — Audre Lorde, EquinoxMar 19, 2020541Mar 19, 2020541
Uterus Support: A letter to my some of my dudesYesterday, I sent this to many of the cishet-ish men I know. One of them (thanks, Mordecai!) asked me to make it a Medium post so he could…May 17, 20193162May 17, 20193162
Published inFamily StorySeparating Romance and Parenting“I remember having conversations in college about how many kids I wanted and how I wanted to start having kids before I was 30. It was a…Jan 19, 201813Jan 19, 201813
Published inFamily StoryThere were these constant reminders, ‘You’re not a family.’“Family, kids, marriage is my top priority,” shares Sammi, a 20-year old college student. “All I want are kids. I want a career too. I’m…Dec 1, 201715Dec 1, 201715
It’s going to be complicated; it’s going to have moments of real depth and beautyWhen Mariana invited Toni for drinks, she was looking forward to simply catching up with the younger sister she helped raise, but ended up…Oct 6, 201763Oct 6, 201763
Published inFamily StoryHe should stay here; we’ll be his parents.Anthony and his wife Mariana met in graduate school while pursuing their Masters of Fine Arts. After graduating, they moved to Oakland…Sep 15, 201748Sep 15, 201748
Published inFamily StoryRaising your dead friend’s childBorn into a big military family — the third of seven children — and caring for her household and younger siblings by the age of nine…Sep 7, 201716Sep 7, 201716
Published inFamily StoryBabies coming through: Co-parenting foster kids with your momIt is not unusual for an older child to help care for younger siblings. When the adults in a household are outnumbered by children, the…Aug 17, 2017112Aug 17, 2017112
7. Build and maintain your village.I read this piece today and saw it reposted on Facebook and Twitter a lot. Clearly it resonated with many of us. The Parenting Secret That…Aug 11, 2017Aug 11, 2017
Published inFamily StoryMake a family with a friend.Anyone who has ever raised children knows that it’s easier to do with more people. Part of our society’s attachment to the nuclear family…Aug 8, 2017Aug 8, 2017
Published inFamily StoryThe possibility, hope, and uncertainty of being a foster-to-adopt parent.“You could have a kid who has issues even if they’re your biological kid. You still have to take them to therapy. Or you can have a kid…Jul 31, 20171Jul 31, 20171
Published inFamily StoryGay. Jamaican. Muslim. Father.This piece is part of Family Story’s All Our Families story-telling project.Jul 21, 2017Jul 21, 2017
Published inFamily StoryAll Our FamiliesA wide variety of families has always existed in America, and in the last several decades we’ve seen a growth in that diversity. But the…Jul 13, 2017Jul 13, 2017
Published inFamily StoryCool Auntie VivianThis piece is part of Family Story’s All Our Families story-telling project.Jul 13, 2017Jul 13, 2017
1. ButterStop putting your butter in the damn refrigerator. Especially if you own a restaurant. You can not spread hard butter on anything…Mar 25, 2017Mar 25, 2017
2. Go to bedFor the sake of your wellness, your purpose, and those around you, get some sleep. If you regularly complain about being tired from lack of…Mar 25, 2017Mar 25, 2017
6. Do things with your handsMy post-college roommate was an amazing and experimental cook. He didn’t use recipes, he just imagined new dishes into being. He introduced…Mar 25, 2017Mar 25, 2017
5. Pleasure and StrengthIt took me a while to realize what was happening. I had to stretch before I could fully get out of bed. Healing from injury took longer…Mar 24, 2017Mar 24, 2017
