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The 80/15/5 Method acknowledges that we can’t “rise and grind” forever

Our bodies and brains need breaks. Time to ruminate, rest, and rejuvenate. The problem is, we’ll never get those breaks unless we schedule them—and stick to that schedule. …


If we gave our habits half the care that we give our relationships, we’d all be better humans

“I built an amazing marriage overnight,” said nobody ever. That would make for an enticing headline, but we’d be rightly suspicious of the contents. We know that our relationships take a lot. …


Acknowledging the aversion can help you finally pursue mastery

We say things like “enjoy the process” and “it’s all about the journey” and “consistency is key.”

I agree with those statements. The journey of growth and learning is so important to me.

But there’s something else we need to add to the mix: accepting boredom.

James Clear first introduced…


Being told it’s ‘normal’ doesn’t help

“I’m just so tired,” the man said.

“I can’t shake it. This feels like the most exhausting year ever.”

Sound familiar? In various forms, it’s the catch cry of nearly every person I work with at the moment.

Exhaustion, mental, physical, right-down-to-the bones-fatigue, is everywhere. …


I tried all the popular productivity systems. This is what finally stuck.

For the better part of a decade, I’d get frustrated at myself for not
being able to make popular productivity systems to work for me.
GTD, the Bullet Journal Method, Day Designer, The Franklin Covey
planner, the Ivy Lee Method, time-blocking — I tried them all. …


How recognizing our limits helps us forge new openings

In graduate school, I had a professor who loathed me. And I mean toe-curling he’s-getting-hives-just-looking-at-me loathery. It was so very irrational but also so very deep. And, as is perhaps no surprise, the depth of the loathing was precisely correlated to the extent of the irrationality. …


The “No, Sh*t, Sherlock” law of behavior change is still a necessary one.

tri-color dog jumping through a hoop

James Clear’s Atomic Habits lays out the way that tiny changes can contribute to lasting behavior change. In other words, micro-movements you make in your schedule, your life, and even the way you talk to yourself can help you to build good habits that last a lifetime.

The first three…


It can help you discover, or maybe remember, what makes you you.

October 2021 commenced on an eerier note than usual: I turned 28, officially entering into my late twenties, the carefree simplicity of my youth fading away in the rearview mirror. Several days later, my boyfriend contracted a breakthrough case of the ol’ Covid-19. Despite making out with him a day…


The popular psychological construct can propel you forward — but it can also set you way back

In my junior year of high-school, I applied to the prestigious Medill School of Journalism at Northwestern University. I didn’t get in. Over the years, I’ve submitted essays and articles to all kinds of publications, from my local newspaper to the New York Times. Countless more have been rejected than…


Charlie Mackesy’s “The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse” takes simple living to a new and beautiful level

You know when you see someone do something and you think to yourself, “I’ll never be that good!” so you don’t even try. I experienced this feeling the other day when reading Charlie Machesy’s hit children’s book, “The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse.”

I’ve been mapping out…

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